bear88 said: "Thanks for the replies. I would certainly rather discuss the success, or lack thereof, of the show itself. I was just annoyed by what seemed like the rather dismissive attitude toward anyone - not just me - who dared to criticize the show. It's a theater message board. Everyone doesn't have to agree.
SPOILERS ARE BELOW.
BroadwayNYC2's argument is that the show deliberately treats Kimberly's family as caricatures and that the show can't necessarily be regarded as taking place in reality at all. jkcohen626 says the show's "inherently absurdist and cartoonish" qualities make it better, and that any consideration of real-world morality of the characters' actions is the wrong way to think about the show.
Fair enough. Plenty of serious shows - especially musicals - include ludicrous, comic subplots, and it's fine to argue that getting too caught up in the criminal code or the likelihood that Buddy would report his beloved car stolen is being too literal. But the show makes a point of stating it's taking place in 1999, repeatedly saying it's in Bergen County, New Jersey. The details of Kimberly's medical condition, and her likely death in a year or less, are drummed home in scene after scene. That feels like an odd choice for a show that might not exist in reality.
And all the cartoonishness of Kimberly's family exists in the show uncomfortably alongside her own misery, which doesn't feel absurdist at all. It feels awfully grounded to me. "I was never the daughter you wanted," Kimberly sings at the outset of the show's emotional pinnacle, "Before I Go." She's accompanied in the second half of the song by her parents, singing parts of their only serious songs, including her mother's "Father Time."
How can Kimberly's song to her parents about "the ghost of the girl I'll never be," just before she leaves her family to die, be treated as anything but a tragedy? Forget Lodi. Forget the caper stuff. Just that song.
The musical feels like it's trying to have things both ways. It's a tragedy, Kimberly's going to die, abandoned/driven away by her family to make way for the new baby, but don't feel sad. Don't even be angry at her parents - the ones she's singing to in "Before I Go" - because they're absurd caricatures and maybe not even real. At least Kimberly is getting to go on a great adventure with her only friend (who apparently can just drop out of school).
I'm glad that many people have enjoyed this show and weren't bothered by the things that irked me. I just couldn't accept the show's abrupt tonal shifts and logical inconsistencies."
So, for me, at its most basic, this piece is a fable and reminder to live life to its fullest whenever you can because “no one gets a second time around.” This is cloaked in a story about a girl with a much greater sense of urgency when it comes to needing to cherish every moment possible due to the inevitability of her circumstances and reality.
If you’re getting too bogged down in the absurdity of the parents and Kimberly’s aunt and whether or not Kimberly and Seth would be caught or arrested in real life, I think you’re missing the point of the show. Everything that happens to Kimberly (good and bad) is a catalyst towards her end goal before her life is abruptly cut short.
But, if we really want to get into the weeds: Kimberly’s parents are literal white trash who peaked in high school and Debra is an actual criminal. These aren’t exactly saintly people. Couple this with the fact that Buddy and Patti have a kid in their late teens (already somewhat traumatic) who turns out to have an extremely rare disease that will ensure that they outlive their child. We don’t know what kind of trauma response they are going to have to this knowing that their kid could die any moment. It doesn’t excuse their behavior, but it certainly explains it. Despite all this, you know deep down they still care (their immediate emotional responses after the inevitable turn, and sticking by her hospital bed for days).
Some SPOILERS:
All that said, if you’re not believing in Kimberly’s arc or rooting for her, I suppose you may not enjoy yourself (though it frankly feels impossible not to!). One of the most surprising things about this show is that you’re expecting the ending to be tragic and yet, it ends on such a heartwarming and sweet note. I like how that subverted a cliche plot line.
In “before I go” where she also sings “let me go,” (which by the way has made me tear up more than just about any song in memory), there’s the double meaning:
1) literally let me go on my trip to see the world before I go (die)
2) let go of the memory of me. It’s an unselfish act where Kimberly wants to set her parents free of the grief, guilt, and fear they’ve been harboring for 16 years.
I’ve seen the show three times now and each time becomes more endearing and so very personal and moving. Kimberly as a character so affects me and I care deeply about her as an audience member. I’ve never recommended a show this much and often to friends and family before. For weeks after I first saw the show, just thinking about Kimberly’s story and joie de vivre made me misty. I get that not everyone is going to have that response.
Anyway, that’s just some really jumbled thoughts.
-There's the muddle in the middle. There's the puddle where the poodle did the piddle."