Sorry, Belinda Luscombe, You Need Attention- Isn't being an unknown blogger and lousy mother enough? Do you have to start attacking innocents as well?
Dear Ms. Luscombe - I’m unfamiliar with your work. Who isn’t? Oh, those of us who just became aware of your noxious existence through your warrantless attack on Audra McDonald in your TIME blog. You take Ms. McDonald to task for thanking her parents for not medicating her as a child.
For those mercifully unaware of your “pay attention to ME” blog, I’ve broken it down:
Paragraph 1- YOU (allegedly) love (Audra)
Paragraph 2- YOU love (her dress)
Paragraph 3- YOU hope your kids will thank YOU someday; you infer that you are your husband are superior because you have children and are, you know, HUMAN; you put down Audra for having relatives who are musical; you admit your family is NOT musical or talented and that your parents were not supportive
Paragraph 4- parenting is HARD- you admit you SHOUT at your child, which could be considered child abuse
Paragraph 5- you admit you are anxious- you complain you don’t get a trophy- you put her down for being talented and say your child isn’t- you further illustrate how resentful you are
Paragraph 6- you delusionally think she was specifically singling YOU out in her speech; again you put her down for being accomplished; at what point in the speech did she tell people to NOT use drugs- she’s not a Scientologist? It wasn’t Romper Room where she looked in her Magic Mirror to single people out by name
Paragraph- Brave you for being a martyr; Audra’s accomplishments aren’t that great and may easily be bettered; you think you’re just swell.
Your blog tells us much more about you than the plight of children and parents who suffer with ADHD. You are resentful Ms. McDonald is accomplished while YOU, wonderful, poor put upon you has SO much to deal with- it must be challenging to have a child who acts out. Why aren’t YOU being recognized and lauded for being so swell- some poor writer who didn’t have four members of her family in a gospel singing group, who doesn’t wear a “seriously kickass red and white gown”, someone whose own child doesn’t have talent?
There’s something called Muchausen Syndrome, which is a psychiatric factitious disorder wherein those affected feign disease, illness, or psychological trauma to draw attention, sympathy, or reassurance to themselves. You might want to research that and deal with your own psychological issues (your Twitter icon is a caricature of you in a strait jacket- no, seriously, it is).
Maybe you were just exhausted from “removing gum”. Or cataloguning all the things at which your child was not accomplished- sports, theatre, art. In a world where everyone’s given a prize for just showing up and the culture of entitlement it brings, you are an angry, bitter woman and deep down beat yourself up for not being a good parent. That is heavy but something much better dealt with in private in therapy than on a blog.
How dare you try to ruin someone’s glorious achievement because you feel you are entitled to being lauded for being….YOU? Your bizarre and ugly blogpost makes it abundantly clear that this is NOT about Audra- it’s about you, your child, your anger and shortcomings as a writer, parent and human being. You posted a YouTube video of you reading nasty things said about you online- Martyr much?
Knowing you’ve accomplished so little must be as bitter a pill to swallow as the pill you shove down your child’s throat daily- and according to most recent data, ADHD medication is not a cure- it’s just a way of delaying the inevitable problems- be they genetic and/or environmental.
Kind of curious why the poster joined today just to share his/her outrage.
Are we suppose to run to the blogger's page and berate her, too?
I can pretty much assure you, Thomas_Hardy, that the blog post likely upset YOU more than it did Ms McDonald.
If we're not having fun, then why are we doing it?
These are DISCUSSION boards, not mutual admiration boards. Discussion only occurs when we are willing to hear what others are thinking, regardless of whether it is alignment to our own thoughts.
I don't care about any of this snake eating its own tail bee-ess, not when there's a new Body Count album to blast. (Honestly, Pop Bubble is the funniest song of the year.)
Having said that, the following is the best one-two punch maybe ever:
I took no offense at Audra's comments. She was thanking HER parents for not choosing medication when she really just needed a outlet, not making a blanket endorsement for the medical field. Good for them and good that it worked out so well.
I am not upset with the blogger because unless you have a special needs child at home that you care for 24/7, you have NO idea what the pressures are and what you have to deal with. So if she blew Audra's comments out of proportion, I don't agree with her but I do understand it. As an educator, I have seen many parents who feel they can't do anything right and are failing their children no matter what they do. It doesn't take much to upset their balance. I get it..
I do NOT understand or condone the original poster in this thread however who seems to have not one bit of compassion and understanding for what this woman obviously deals with every single day of her life.
I do have a problem with the blogger. This was a special moment for Audra and she thanked her parents for making a decision that was right for her. She didn't preach any views, nor did she make any blanket statements about medicating kids.
When did everything someone on TV said/did, especially when they're celebrating their success, become about us?
Why must we always take someone elses successes and comments and turn them about us? Society becomes more egotistical every time someone writes something like this. Everyone has the right to their own opinion, but no need to take someone else's success and make it about you.
Audra thanked her parents. Nothing to do with any other special needs child. The blogger, to me, comes across as petty and jealous. Just my two cents.
Mind you, I can definitely relate to the bloggers situation - just don't condone her publicly calling out Audra like this about something that had nothing to do with a stance on medicating kids.
The complete list of qualifications needed to become an Internet Blogger are the following:
1) The ability to type the words "My Blog".
That's it.
Enjoy the bloggers who resonate with you, ignore the rest and by all means don't get worked up over the ones you think are idiots and give them the "run" some of them so desperately crave.
Person A is accomplished and distinguished. Person B uses Person A to make a relatively unrelated point while still disparaging Person A. Person C is up in arms and posts about it. Persons D-K are up in arms about Person C. Persons L-J are up in arms about Persons D-K being up in arms. Person Z fell asleep.
Person A continues to be accomplished and distinguished. Repeat onwards forever.
I'm glad to see BroadwayWorld (and the world in general) has not changed.
I am just being snarky and have had my fill of working with "moms" in my office...
Decided to spend my 2 cents to comment rather than on my meds today. If this blogger spent more time with her kids and less blogging about someone's acceptance speech at an awards show, maybe her kids would not need medication.
Before anyone has heart failure from my post and derides me for it, I AM JUST BEING SNARKY AND A LITTLE IRONIC.
When I see the phrase "the ____ estate", I imagine a vast mansion in the country full of monocled men and high-collared women receiving letters about productions across the country and doing spit-takes at whatever they contain.
-Kad
By "moms" (in quotes) I mean those that will decry being limited because they are a mom while asking for accommodations that others without children dont receive. They dont want their status to be defined by their kids but then use their kids to dictate what others can expect of them.
Updated On: 6/10/14 at 02:41 PM
@FishermanBob - yes, anyone who can type out their name and a title can have a blog - but I wish before people pushed that "publish" button, they take a good look at what they've written and ask themselves:
"Is this something the world needs to read? Is it a well written, researched post that has something to offer - or vindictive garbage?"
I know I always do this - and if others did too - the internet would be a much better place for all!